As much as I love first dates, I’m so over them. All that build up, all that pressure, the uncomfortable footwear; it’s all a big fuss over what is really just one night of your life. There are literally billions of articles written about first dates, and yet I don’t think it is the most important date.
Obviously the first date is something special. It’s the “first impression” phase of a potential new relationship. The third date, at least in my experience, is where we give our new sweetie a peek at our sexy unmentionables. Having said that, these days anything goes; from first date to wedding night. But all things considered, the third date appears to be “date rush” night.
The date that comes in between one and three (that would be number two!) really doesn’t get the attention it deserves. In my opinion, the second date is where you discover the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. First date jitters are a memory; you’re more relaxed and less nervous than the first time around. More importantly, even though there is a mutual attraction, the overwhelming thoughts of sex are usually on the back burner. The newness of it all though make this date exciting!
The second date hits the sweet spot. To make sure that you are making the most of this special and underrated event, here’s a handy checklist:
Put your listening ears on
First of all, relax and be prepared to listen. You obviously did well on the first date or you wouldn’t be here for a second date. So settles your nerves and put your brain back in gear. You need to focus less on making yourself look good and focus more on being genuinely interested in the other person. Listen, and take the information you’re given to heart. Allow it to make the person across from you become more complete.
Flirt it up
It’s actually important that you do (not to make flirting seem like a super serious matter or anything crazy like that); date number two is where too many people slip into the friend zone. If you appear to be sincerely interested in what your date is saying and laughing at their jokes and obviously enjoy their company but there are pretty much no sexual undertones to the evening, your date is going to think you just want to be friends.
And if that’s what you want than fine, but you probably don’t. Make your intentions clear by bringing on your “A” game.
Let go of your preconceptions
Boxes, as in preconceived notions; about this person, this “maybe” relationship and even yourself. You’ve only been out together once, so now is not the time to make assumptions. The fact is that you don’t know who this person is yet, nor do you know how they perceive you. It’s way too soon to put this relationship into a neatly labeled box.
