If you want to be a successful dater, or have an active dating life, all you really have to be is how you are at work. Respectful, cordial and prompt, if they value these traits in an employee, most people will admire this in someone they could possibly date. People seem to second-guess themselves when they get a phone call from someone they gave their number to. They think that there’s some sort of secret formula into making your prospective date like you even more. But the truth is, it doesn’t require rocket science. All it needs is plain courtesy.
Punctuality is key. Say you give out your phone number and the potential date has called and invited you to a get-together within 24 hours. You in turn, should return and follow up that phone call within 24 hours too. There’s no such thing as waiting for a few days to return a call. That is absurd and sends a message that you’re unprofessional. Girls don’t want that. Also, if you were the one who was called first, would you want to be kept waiting? Reality is nobody wants to wait that long for a return call, if you make the person anxious, you’ll send the wrong message. Besides, in business you never let your customers wait, it’s downright rude so why should you want to do this in your phone dating life? But when you’ve given your phone number and yet the person calls you back after one whole week. Well, they made you wait so why shouldn’t they wait too? It actually sends the message that you’re not that interested and doesn’t seem to care enough to make dating her a priority. Just think of courtesy and manners, if you waited that long, they shouldn’t expect to be called right back. So if they let you wait, reciprocate.
Treat others the way you want to be treated. You should always keep in mind the golden rule. If you kept your date anxiously waiting for that call, even if you are the most gorgeous being in existence, it will still reflect on you and tell the prospective date that you are an ill-mannered person. Even if you are swamped with work and other dates, you should still call because honestly, how long will a phone call take? 5 minutes of your precious time? Call them and if they can’t be reached at the moment, you should leave a message thanking them for the call and confirm or reschedule or break it to them that they are not what you are looking for. Thank them for their time and since you went out in the first place, there must have been enough similarities that will make you good friends and it is always nice to meet you new people you can actually get along with. It is always advisable to end on good terms.
Calling immediately is not a sign of desperation. Most daters are afraid they will come off as lame or pathetic if they call immediately after the date. This is not true. All that matters is what you say during that phone call. An example of this is when you’re at a bar and a girl gives you her number and leaves. Wouldn’t it be nice for the girl to come home and get a message from you saying you already want to see her? Sincerely and not sounding like a total creep. The trick is not to assume anything, give them a call, leave your number and hope for the best. Many girls actually think this is a great move, but you have to do it right since girls are also put-off by over-confidence. Just be suave and chill and wait for that phone call. Only call once, it is more than enough. If done right, things could totally get rolling from there.
If they don’t like you, you most likely can’t change their minds. We all have different tastes and that is a fact. If you get the vibe that your date doesn’t quite fancy you, then let it go and move on. Don’t get offended; rather see it as an opportunity to meet people you actually like. Do not pester them with annoying calls because it will only cement the idea of how much they don’t like you even more. Call them back once and tell them how much you appreciate them taking the time to see you, thank them and hang up. And if you don’t like your date, don’t give them the idea that you’d like to see them again. Even if you don’t like the person, then be professional and tell them. Be a man. But thank them for the night and make an effort to leave on good terms.
Following these tips will make your phone dating life easier, just remember the golden rule, respect and always, under all circumstances, call back. For more phone dating tips, keep on checking www.ephonedating.com
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