The time after a split is dangerous and what you do now can pull your relationship together again or make it a lot harder to reunite. If you want to learn how to win your ex back you need to avoid bad behavior. Try not to blow your chances by acting strangely.
To follow are three things you must not do:
1. Do not try to contact your ex. After splitting you must observe a period of no-contact. It sets the stage for what is to follow. If you continually attempt to text or call your ex they will be pushed away. Try not to go down this route.
Think how they will feel when the phone rings. They will always think it is you and they will remember some of the more negative aspects of your relationship. There are ups and downs in relationships, but you don’t want to remind your ex of the downs.
2. Do not cling on to them. If you act needy and try to get their attention they will think badly of you. They will feel pressured and this will cause problems.
An appearance of being able to take it all in your stride will have a good effect on your ex. They will think you are great for handling things well and they will be attracted to you. This behavior will make them doubt that splitting up is a good idea. Even if you feel terrible you should LOOK confident to your ex.
3. Don’t beg them to return. This would make it seem like you needed help. The prospect of having to support you emotionally (as well as deal with their own emotions) will send them in the opposite direction. You can’t base a relationship on this, there has to be more equality in it. Stand tall and confident and you will be far more attractive to them.
Doing the above is not how to win your ex back. You must be strong now and prepare. Use the time apart from them to make a plan to save your relationship.
How much does your ex mean to you? If the answer is “a lot” then you owe it to yourself to make a system. If you want to discover how to win back your ex you need a system to follow. There is a brilliant book available but does Magic of Making Up Work?
