Until you learn how to make out with the cool composure of a pro, you are likely to experience extreme anxiety and discomfort in intimate situations. If you feel awkward or even fearful when it looks like an intimate make out session might be possible, you are not alone. Most people feel this way when they are having their first experiences.
For most people, making out with a bunch of random people to build up experience and overall confidence is not possible. While it would be a fun and very effective way to figure out what is expected and practice your skills, you will likely have to find a way to calm your nerves that is more realistic.
Let’s compare making out with someone you really like to visiting your doctor for hypnosis. When you see the doctor you lie down so your body is completely relaxed. You are instructed by a gentle, kind voice to close your eyes and wipe all thoughts from your mind. You are to focus only in the moment, not on anything else.
When you are with someone that you really want to kiss and hold tight, you should focus on the same things. Relax your body. Clear your mind of all thoughts; and that includes anxiety and fearful thoughts. Close your eyes. Just try to live in the moment without any introspection or analysis.
For some people this is rather easy once you realize the importance, but for others it can be very hard to turn off the critical mind and just relax. Those people will need more experience kissing before they start to relax with the person in their arms.
If you are having some trouble wiping away extraneous thoughts, try to direct your thoughts to the person you are sharing this moment with. Can you smell her hair? Are her lips moist and parted? How tight is she clinging to you? How does she feel in your arms in general?
You are just experiencing this moment to the fullest without any type of criticism of your own skills. You will remember nothing when you walk away from the experience except for how they felt, tasted, and looked.
Notice that you are at no point analyzing how well you are doing. In order to learn how to make out with the cool composure of a pro you need to just follow the lead of the person you are with and take away as much as you possibly can from each and every kiss.
