When we meet someone, we begin the mind-numbing game of trying to decipher every little word and move they make, every approach they take in all the games people play, trying to figure out if they like us or not.
What I can’t figure out is why we do this to ourselves. I’m no exception. As a relationship writer I’ve spent hours doing relationship self analysis. And I’ve concluded that fretting about a man’s emotions is just too much hard work. It needn’t be though.
Provided you’re not receiving totally mixed signals from him, you should just follow your instincts in determining whether or not he’s smitten with you. You can go analyze this to death of you want, but what it comes down to is what you feel deep down. Chances are your intuition about his feelings is probably spot on.
That being said there are still those of you who like nothing better than examining his every word. You actually like playing the “he loves me, he loves me not” game. To ensure you’re on the winning side, here’s a cheat sheet. If you’re still not sure, just ask him outright.
He’s told his friends about you
When you meet his friends for the first time, and you’re not a surprise to them, that’s a good thing. It means he’s talked about you with them. If he wasn’t really interested in you, he wouldn’t have bothered mentioning you.
He calls you just to talk
I could write a book about men who believe they shouldn’t call a woman the day after their date. It’s such an old and out dated notion.
You know just as well as I do that if he doesn’t call the next day, it does not mean that he is not interested in you. But, if his next call comes at 11:30 on Friday night, this guy is more ass than class. If that’s what you want, then go for it. But a booty call isn’t likely someone who will be interested in meeting your parents. Those calls aside, if he calls within a week of your date, he’s interested.
He actually listens to you
Men who are taken with someone typically want to be a little sweet and romantic. And what’s the best way to do something out of the way and special for his new lady? Knowing things about her. You have to know the facts before you can plan your romantic assault. At least, I hope most men are doing this, otherwise their attempts at romantic gestures will be generic and boring.
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